22 year old - I Need Help!!!!!

Like everything in life spelling and writing skills and the English language take a lot of practice to perfect. I certainly havn't perfected it (as you can obviously tell), but luckily I have people who are willing to work with me on these issues.

At 22 I was in the same rut you were in (still am) in between jobs living with my folks (still do) feeling like life would never get better. I decided to take a phsycoeducational evaluation when I was 23,the results didn't meet my expectations but I'm going to try my best to correct my academic weaknesses.


In elementary school my LD started to manifest itself through math and English subjects.

I was diagnosed with LD around the age of 10. At that age I was placed in my schools resource room, I stayed there from that age till I graduated (the school I went to was a private school) I never felt like I was able to participate in sports activities because I was clumsy and uncoordinated. Looking back on my elementary and secondary years I feel like I could've accomplished so much more if only I had some one who believed in me and had the patience to teach me the things I wanted to learn. Unfortunately I gave up on myself and others gave up on me, I fell through the crack so to speak. I've lived my life regretting decisions I've made in school and decisions I've made that affected other people. I often ask myself if only I had listened to the warnings people gave me when I was in school would I be a better person today, and would I have a better job and a brighter future ahead of me, or would it of made a difference if I had tried harder..

Let me assure you "Kid Goku" that you arn't mentally retarded, if you can get on a computer and type and make sense of your thoughts you obviously have some intelligence. No one can guess your IQ over the internet so that question won't be answered until you relieve diagnostic testing. If your are feeling this bad about yourself now I would discourage you from finding out what your iq score is. If you want to pursue a degree in the future you will defiantly need to have your intelligence tested, but if your personal goals don't involve any educational advancement don't bother because it will more than likely make you feel worse about yourself, it certainly made me feel like less of a person.

It probably didn't really drop, but if it did then you should be able to get disability pension. Hey, you deserve to get *something* good with that silly number.

My godchild scored a little lower but I can tell you nobody would ever think so. I know her and I know how the testing goes, so I *know* she is a lot smarter. She uses social cues really well (better than me :)), but when a tester gives a psych test they carefully give NO social cues. So my godchild gets confused and says the first thing that comes to her head. In the real world, you dont' have to do that. And since she doesn't *know* she is supposed to be stupid, she doesn't act that way.

I think you are right to try & get an evaluation, though. Just don't let the numbers get you down. They are just numbers.

I'm not sure you're right about not being able to work, though finding the right job can be hard. (My godchild has been able to work, I think at Domino's Pizza.)

This is going to sound cheesy, but even faking a better attitude can make a difference, and it is one thing a person *can* work on when there isn't much else you can change. If you are cheerful, people don't know why but they get cheerful too. It's worth practicing saying positive things and thinking positive things.

Sue J, webmastress www.resourceroom.net

Good luck on your evaluation. If everything goes well to the point where you can collect disability, then what are you going to do? Try to use obtaining disability to your advantage and try to do something. There are a lot of thing out there taht you can do; like volunteering and even auditing Community College classes. Only you can determine your future, so please try and make the most out of any opportunity before you and please do not become someone who "collects" and nothing more.