If you go to this link or just google "SMART IEP" you will find information on this. Basically, the "M" in SMART stands for measurable. www.wrightslaw.com/bks/feta/ch12.ieps.pdf
I have also read this weekend about something called a DRAFT IEP. Google that or go to the same website, wrightslaw.com. If you google it, there should be a hit from that site. It might be easier to find. Basically, you should approve the IEP and be able to make changes to it prior to the IEP meeting. I believe that is part of the IDEA 2004, but check it out and insist on being part of the process. If you can set some goals that you would like that would be a good start. Also, I have read a lot about goal setting and there are 3 different types of goals from general to specific. Like for your daughter a general goal would be to improve her auditory processing skills. A more specific would be to improve a specific part of her auditory processing, like if it's auditory memory, or auditory discrimination, etc... and the most specific goal would be to be able to do something in particular in relation to that skill, like to remember a set of oral instructions if memory is an issue.
Good luck and let us know how it goes.
Kathryn