Student's odd behavior - parent in denial?

hello,
I'd appreciate any tips. I am tutoring a student who I think needs referral for evaluation. He seems to be in a world of his own, no eye contact. Walks very slowly, as if is not quite sure where he is. Answers questions very slowly. Performs his work very slowly. In doing math for example, one week he will know how to factor. The next week, he seems as if he has never heard of factoring, but when I start him off, he recalls. Sometimes he smiles to himself, at what I don't know.

I discussed this with his mother months ago, and urged her to get an evaluation. (The boy is a HS senior). To date she has not. I suppose I should bring it up again, but I don't quite know what to do.

Appreciate any ideas.

BTW the family is Jamaican, and I recently had the thought that perhaps in that society there is more of a stigma to being 'labeled', and perhaps I should tell her that here (mostly) the stigma is decreasing.

ellenr

I'm no expert but it sounds like autism. If the parents won't do anything, how about tailoring your lessons to methods used for specific disabilities?

One kid I teach is autistic. I found that he likes activities that involve manipulating things with his hands. Matching flashcards to words, using felt leters on a board to spell simple words, and recently I've found a great phonics program he seems to really like working on, and is really good at.

On the other hand, he hates writing, and doesn't respond well to oral instruction, or book-based.

Try getti nyourself a felt board with numbers to do the math problems. being able to physically move them around could help.

As for the parents, I am sure by now they aware of his problems and have their own reasons for not wanting to pursue it any further. It might be touchy to bring up the subject again with the parents. They may find you are intruding. In my Asperger's mind I would research his symptoms and present them with a report complete with suggested solutions, phone numbers of doctors etc, but I've learned that's not really appreciated!

The most you can do is try different methods, and tailor your lessons to suit his strengths. Eventually he'll improve with teh right technique and you'll have the satisfaction of being able to do at least something for him!

Small achievements can really make a difference in anyone's life.

[Modified by: Qof on December 12, 2007 11:07 PM]

Or, it is children are little sponges. They learn everything, this is why we must becareful about what we say to and about them both in terms of personal matters and various aspects of their disabilities.

I was reading a study actually about depression, in which, they were trying to prove that it is a hereditary disorder. In the end something like 25 to 30% got depressed in a household with a depressed parent, which is high when compared to the rest of the population. I was shocked they would claim such evidence, as i could point out also that the vast majority of the population was not subjected to the behaviors of the depressed parent. Often, children grow up mimicking what most frequently the same sex parent does. Me and my mother have quite a few similar traits for example, as an auditory learner, when you hear me on the phone, you can't tell the difference between us. As i guess i must mimick her tones and plenty of her speech patterns.... It may be worthwhile next time you see the parents to watch the same sex parent closely and just see... Because like the depression study i was mentioning, sometimes what is being ultimately observed in children may not actually be depression, but learned behaviors based on the behaviors of those in close proximity.