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Meeting the right girl


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Joined: Apr 24, 2008
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Posted Apr 24, 2008 at 5:07:39 PM
Subject: Meeting the right girl

We have tried various social skills groups and private schools in order that our 19 year old son can "meet the right girl" as he puts it.
I feel like there could be some kind of national network (almost like an eharmony for LD and Asperger's kids).
Does anyone have any ideas?
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scifinut
Joined Jul 11, 2005
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Location:Washington State

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Posted: Apr 24, 2008 11:38:15 PM

I wouldn't push it. He should continue to do activities with other singles but he has many years ahead of him. There are lots of groups now for singles that could be a way for him to meet other people, make friends and hopefully find a life partner. However, at 19 he should be more focused on establishing himself in the world - continue his education, work, live on his own, etc.

scifinut mom to: ms 16, bp/adhd/anxiety/complex ld mr. 20, add/dyslexic I hear and I forget I see and I remember I do and I understand. -Anonymous

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Louise
Joined Jul 10, 2008
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Location:Yorkshire, UK

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Posted: Jul 10, 2008 9:30:54 AM

I really don't no how you can push these things other then make sure he still has some sociable activities were he will meet available people. I really struggled with starting a relationship (I was absolutely petrified) but not rushing into things worked best. I was actually 24 before I had my first boyfriend. I think there has to be something said for just going with the flow ;o)
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Mandi
Joined May 05, 2008
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Location:From Boston MA Presently in Brandon MB

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Posted: Jul 16, 2008 10:45:23 AM

28 on july 17th adhd diagnosis, and dyslexic. I just got married saturday. I am very happy. At 19 your son should be thinking about university and studies and things that require a group which offer opportunities to meet people. Why push this at such a young age?

Better to be ready to meet the right person. No reason he should find someone even with LD like he has. My husband holds a PHD in theoretical physics and has not been diagnosed with anything. We are super happy together.

I was actually 19 when i first had sex.... Had started dating at 14.... And i am allegedly socially retarded though no one i know would say so except the shrinks making a fortune off the drug companies. They may note i miss the odd visual social cue that someone else would have noticed but that is rather rare.... I was old for sexual activity by personal choice and preference. Not because i was too immature... But because i hadn't met anyone at that point i felt quite that way about. And now i am someone's wife... Wow.... That is weird to say it is sooo new! But don't gear your son's whole life towards living within the confines of his LD instead teach him to surpass it and reach beyond it and to make connections with other people that have no labels as well as with those that have.
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