Good advice! Ask them to write it all down though just so you have a reference point and hmmm 'exact' terms for everything and often within a field, words mean something they don't mean to lay people, example is, for example in archaeology.... the word "podium" It means something that it doesn't exactly mean to most people. When i first came across it i had to ask, because of the context it seemed like a 'loaded' term. Then the difference was explained and yeh its ggood. But what we think we understand as totally competent people sometimes we don't because the usage is somewhat different always good to look everything up. So if you don't have the word exactly right.... It might be hard to do.
See what is emphasized int he curriculum, is it auditory or visual or other? Are there suggestions you can make for how they might enhance it super simply as they go without causing interruption that might open it up more to other ways of learning than the one most stressed in the curriculum? What room in it is there for those who need extra help? Se what they offer for extra help, within the curriculum.... See if that is what your child needs.
If what your kid needs isn't to be found there, then try to find other options less intrusive to his social well being. Such as maybe have the tutor come more often.... Check what style the tutor uses if you haven't already. Is the tutor specialized in teaching children with the *kind* of LD your kid has? Many LDs exist.... Soooo they all have their own needs for learning attached and some are somewhat similar, and some are totally different. Just being familiar with a vcouple LD children, if you don't have both experience with his learning style as well as whatever his language based disability is, then.... It could be that it is somehow not quite the right aproach. You might also want to listen closer when he talks.... Does he make grammar errors? If not, you can always just say to him, "Look at the question about the book you are reading for school. Now *Tell* me your answer." If the grammar is fine when he tells you the answer.... You could then say to him "Great, now tell your teacher, just like you are telling me, on the paper. Write it down like you are talking to her/him. I will help you lets go line by line tell me the first line of the answer again just like before, now lets take exactly that and just write it on the paper...." And try going line by line that way. Which ofcourse helps not at all with the spelling but maybe with the grammar if he speaks grammatically correctly.
The Orton Guillingham method however it is spelled is what made me literate. Doesn't do anything i don't think for sentence structure, but it may be of some use with the spelling problem. I really don't know though. My understanding is fairly limited to my own diagnosis (which includes a language disorder) in that i have studied all the components and treatments and perspectives etc related to my own needs and i have experience living with them and finding my way through. But again it may be the disabilities are not in the least bit compattible in how they should be catered to. Just offering what little i have incase it can be helpful.
Also, the suggestion related to how the specific needs of your child mesh with the style and the exact curriculum being taught is an excellent suggestion rather than limiting yourself solely to an understanding of the curriculum itself. You must know how your child works so that his strengths can be capitalized on rather than ignored, if he never remembers anything he reads for example or doesn't remember from the visual examples, you might want to use methods that focus on.... Hmmm.... If he remembers everything ever verbally told him try auditory. And if that isn't helpful i have no idea how, but try something that relates to physical sensations and touch.... Like maybe writing the correct sentence in sand and then labling the the parts of the sentence also in the sand under the sentence itself... I don't really know, people who learn by touch i am not familiar with really.... So i am just thinking out loud there, to illustrate the idea.
But yeh some good ideas have been offered....
Just want to point out something...
Many people who are known for their brilliance had some sort of language disability.
Einstein was non verbal till he was like 5....
Simon from american idol, has a super creative mind, i do believe he was a highschool drop out though i would have to look it up i think i read that somewhere, either way he didn't go to university because he wasn't interested in academics. Typical for the LD.
Cher, the singer also super brilliant and creative is also dyslexic....
Ummmm... Maya Angelou spent several years as a mute though i think that was more related to trauma....
Ever done a spell check on shakespeare?! That guy even spells his own name 7 different ways....
I think what we are abole to express, and what we are able to understand and think up and the complexity of our thought patterns and ideas and views are very different things. I mean, Shakespeare's text would hardly be more, artistic and brilliant and beautiful, if he spelled everything perfectly. All it would be then is accurately spelled, not that that would detract from the brilliance expressed in his work... If that makes any sense at all.... Maybe you have to have a language based LD to appreciate what i am trying to say here.
It might help to get him LD tested, If you think he is fine, ignore them about what ever drug they want to put him on and ignore all the fear mongering. They once told my mother if i wasn't medicated for dyslexia i would develop Ebola, which would then turn into AIDs and i would die a horrible death within the next 3 years. This coming from someone educated at like Harvard to understand and to diagnose LD. All the same. He did discover i am an auditory learner. He did also name dyslexia as the problem which was accurate. But some of these guys actually receive money from the drug companies for perscribing these drugs. Relying on them *alone* for such an opinion on your kid is always a bad idea as i said some will say anything. Poor mum was scared to death for about 2 weeks till she had spoken to a zillion different people. both doctors and lay people to see how truly messed up they thought i was. Everyone said i was fine including 2 other experts. That i was dyslexic but medicating me wasn't gonna help. Better to find a phonetic method and a curriculum that is based on auditory communication of curriculum and information. But please understand, if they didn't find out i was an auditory learner and dyslexic.... They would never have been able to find a way to make me literate. So something good did come out of being labled i guess... Though i don't like lables for the other issues that go with them so frequently. Still once the problem is identified (no reason one has to name it and then define a person by the name of their problem.) the problem then becomes..... less problematic. Imagine tons of huge numbers and an algebra problem, and then subttract from that difficult algebra problem the symbols indicating the procedure. That is an analogy for the problem of LD kids and how to teach them. Often a test can identify what that the 'symbols' are making it then possible to solve for X. However, if the math problem doesn't seem to be all out of alighnment on top of the lack of the symbols then i would ignore any fear mongering and medication hyping that goes far too often with identifying what the symbols that indicate the process for solving for X. That is my weird way of thinking about it anyway. Most people are so visual, i try to give in words a picture sometimes it helps. Sometimes it doesnt.
So sorry for going on and on... But try the suggestions. There will probably always be someone here or many to offer advice in the future too, if you need it.
Good luck!