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Joined: Jan 07, 2009
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Posted Jan 07, 2009 at 12:24:43 PM
Subject: Husband with LD

Hello everyone,

I am new to this board and I am seeking some advice and support........I am married to a wonderful man now for 13 years who has dyslexia. He is unable to write and doesn't read very well because he has trouble sounding out words..........he recently lost his job and is having a very hard time finding employement. He went for adult tutoring for a very short time but gave up. He feels that he is too old to do anything about his condition.

I want to address the fact that maybe its time to seriously get help for his condtion and to continue with some job training. How do I convey my concerns to him without making him feel like he is less of a man?

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Goodysbaby
Joined Nov 03, 2004
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Posted:Jan 10, 2009 11:18:42 AM

Your husband knows he has some type of learning disability has he been tested for dyslexia? IF he has documentation there should be Rehabilitation Services through the state which you live. I live in Michigan, so you can find it under Michigan Rehabilitation Services; there are local offices in each county. They are there to help people with disabilities find work. Dyslexia is a disability. Getting your husband to read, is he an auditory learner? My son is dyslexic and he uses a screen reader. He prefers read and write gold because it reads both pdf and word formatting. Your husband can also use dragon natural speaking which is voice recognition software to type his papers, answers, etc.,

Is your husband looking at going back to school? Get in touch with me and I can help you further with the process and answer any questions.

This has nothing to do with his manhood to have an amazing marriage of thirteen years shows he is doing something right.

Shel

Shel If your not kicking hard enough your not making waves!

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tori667
Joined Jan 07, 2009
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Posted:Jan 12, 2009 3:42:17 PM

Hi thank you for replying. My husband has never been "officially" tested for learning disablitites but its apparent that he has them.......he finally got the courage to ask for help with the unemployement office but they just gave him the run around and now Im afraid he doesn't want to follow thru because he feels ashamed. I always tell him how hard working and smart he is and if he only had the help that he should have gotten as a kid........there is no telling what he could accomplish. I could use some advice on maybe a forum where he can meet other adults like him.....maybe that would make him not feel so alone. Maybe others in his position can encourage him to make that next step and get the help that he needs.

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geodob
Joined Feb 06, 2005
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Posted:Jan 13, 2009 1:14:05 AM

Hi, here's a link to a dyslexia forum where he will be very welcome.
http://beingdyslexic.co.uk/forums/index.php?act=idx

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Mandi
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Posted:Jan 24, 2009 12:43:29 PM

As a dyslexic i know how hard it is. Especially at first, he needs to have patience, all it takes is for it to click in his brain and once that click happens the rest is just simple practice it takes time. It doesnt happen over night. Tell him, a dyslexic epigrapher says he should look into the orton guillingham method and stick with it or some other such method. It is how i learned. I couldn't write my own first name till i was 10. Now i read and write in 6 different languages, i am also fluent in reading modern western music notation and that of the ancient greeks. Also i am quite adequate with ancient egyptian languages and Linear B , among others....

Dyslexic people, have some of the highest IQS, they are extrmely intelligent but it takes them longer because before they can put something together they must take it apart understand all it's components and how to fit it together. Which is not so hard when dealing with electronics perse, but when dealing with reading and writing it takes a long time and loads of hard work.

I will never be able to thank my teachers who taught me to read enough. They gave me a whole world.... There is simply, nothing so powerful on this planet as language not even math. It is a critical and necesary skill to have and once you have it, it changes reality completely. Where once all you had was the simple black and white now you have colors! It enriches everything. It is so fundimentally important it doesn't matter how hard or frusterating it is it is crucial to learn.

Best of luck to you and to your husband.

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Testaclese
Joined Aug 29, 2014
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Posted:Jan 26, 2009 10:02:35 PM

Quote tori667:

Hello everyone,

Quote tori667:

I am new to this board and I am seeking some advice and support........I am married to a wonderful man now for 13 years who has dyslexia. He is unable to write and doesn't read very well because he has trouble sounding out words..........he recently lost his job and is having a very hard time finding employement. He went for adult tutoring for a very short time but gave up. He feels that he is too old to do anything about his condition.

Quote tori667:

I want to address the fact that maybe its time to seriously get help for his condtion and to continue with some job training. How do I convey my concerns to him without making him feel like he is less of a man?

Tori, the sad truth is there is not much help available for adults with LDs. There is state voc rehab but they are often a nasty pack of sadists who do more harm than good.

If hubby has a strong back then that will be his ticket. You may want to help him start a business like car detailing, lawn care, carpet cleaning, painting ect..

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