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Joined: Apr 30, 2009
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Posted Apr 30, 2009 at 9:32:32 PM
Subject: Job harassment?

Hello,

My name is Kat. I was born with a learning disability. I love to learn new things. I know it takes time. I never give up. :)

Anyway, I have a part-time job. I've been working there over 9 years.

I'm not sure if this would call a 'harassment' or not.

This co-worker hates me for no reason at all. I've even heard from anther co-worker. (I know people will hate people). This really has been bugging me.

1: This guy co-worker makes me feel like I can't do anything right! All am I doing is my best.
2: He will not talk to me.
3: Will not joke around me.
4: He will joke and talk to the other co-workers. He and another co-worker were having a conversation and I thought the subject was interesting. Then the co-worker was asking a question. So I joined in the conversation and I knew a little bit about the question that she asked. I think he was annoyed by me replying.
5: He treats me like I'm invisible
6: If a guy customer comes in and teases me (nice way) and he gets really annoyed by it. (oh, This co-worker is married and he is in his 60s (I think).
7: He gets really annoyed that I can't stack things perfectly. My bosses never complain about the way I stack things.
8: If I get behind on a job and he's right there and he would look at me and just walks off and helps someone else and I get way behind. I'm like to myself, "Jerk".
9: He talks about me.
10: He hates my parents choices in cars.


Would you call this harassment?
Kat

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Mandi
Joined May 05, 2008
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Posted:May 01, 2009 5:14:59 AM

It is predjudiced due to lack of understanding. I am so terribly sorry you are having this experience. It always breaks my heart when someone does.

On my mother's side of the family they are quite old. They voted for Bush and they hate Obama cuz he is black. I am really extremely ashamed of them. Back in the 560s they sold a house they had been living in, they agreed to show it to a couple when they couple called. When the couple arrived they doubled the asking price still the couple agreed to take it they loved the house and could afford it. (Unusual in those days, we are talking about the dawn of civil rights, which never should have had a dawn and should have been a given since the beginning of humanity.) My grandparents at that point kicked them out and refused to show them the rest of the house and refused to sell their house to them. These particular grandparents go to church upwards of 4 times a day and they hate latinos too and they hate gays more than anything else. They have a gay son they haven't talked to in somethin like 17 years....I don't know why people are so evil. But i do know that they are. I am sorry.

This guy is old. Once the mind clings to a "truth" even when it is a fallacy for a very long time it becomes i believe, hard to let go. This guy probably believes you are subhuman cuz of your ld and wants nothing to do with you, which is horrible but it isn't a crime. The problem is, he is making a not so nice work environment and it sounds as if he is judging your work and holding you to a higher standard than even your boss does. Maybe have a talk with your boss about this issue? Because this guy should not be standing over you judging and being rude to you not including you in the coversation creating an unfriendly work environment. If he doesn't want you over for dinner on his time that is fine. He has every right to not want that. But when you are payed to work the same shift he needs to treat you like a human being with feerlings. And if he can't then... Go to your boss. But we don't know for sure it is LD that is the reason he is predjudiced though i doubt it is the car issue. Get someone at work to discuss it with him an d to just find out why if he won't talk to you. If no one will get your boss to do it. Tell him it is really making you uuncomfortablle and unhappy.

There are alot of people that hate the learning disabled. Some people consider us an argument for eugenics.... This is an old man. From a slightlyy less, "aware" time period in history. Keep that in mind We are all brought up as we are.... We are all who we are. In a way he is as LD as you are because he is old and he can't take in the new pertinent information that those with ld are reallhy in every way that actually matters not different from those with out it.

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AnnLogsdon
Joined May 02, 2008
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Posted:Dec 26, 2009 10:57:37 AM

I agree. I am also sorry you had this experience. I would definitely talk to your supervisor about the problem. It is possible they may be able to address the issue.

I know it may be hard to do this, but you may want to just return his negative behavior with positive comments. Ignore his mean behavior and focus on the positive in your other co-workers. Sometimes this can help.

Don't let it hurt you. If you cannot get the support from your boss and you feel unable to ignore him, you may want to consider looking for another job.

Unfortunately, there are negative people everywhere though.

Best wishes,
Ann Logsdon
www.learningdisabilities.about.com

Ann Logsdon, Learning Disabilities Guide About.com About.com is a New York Times Company

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AnnLogsdon
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Posted:Dec 31, 2009 8:22:47 PM

As a last resort, you could consider contacting the Office of Civil Rights. They address complaints of discrimination based on disability and hostile work environments. I say last resort because this naturally affects the workplace dynamic, which you may not want to deal with.

Ann Logsdon
www.learningdisabilities.about.com

Ann Logsdon, Learning Disabilities Guide About.com About.com is a New York Times Company

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Testaclese
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Posted:Jan 02, 2010 9:17:04 PM

This guy sounds like a jerk. Tell his wife he made sexual advances toward you. That will fix him.

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Mandi
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Posted:Jan 11, 2010 7:04:41 AM

Yes it might fix him, but it will not fix the situation especially if he knows you are the one that told her that. If he does know it will likely make things worse. Better to try the other suggestions.

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