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I'm really sorry :(


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Posted Apr 09, 2002 at 10:19:59 AM
Subject: I'm really sorry :(

I'm so sorry to all the adults I've critisized and hurt so badly. I'm just hurt and confused as to why you think people with disabilities are disabled because when you say they're disabled you make your kids and anyone else with a disability that you know, sound like they're less human. Please forgive me. :)

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Anonymous
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Posted:Apr 09, 2002 10:41:39 AM

I honestly think it is the way you are interpreting disabled. I don't think anyone here sees disabled as less than human. In fact, I would suspect that like me, many people are far more accepting and tolerant than before they parented a child with special challenges.

I suspect you are struggling with your own limitations. It is hard to be a teenager and hard to be different. I think though that these boards have some of the most accepting people around.

I also don't think anyone was "hurt" by your comments--just a bit frustrated because they seemed tangential to the help people were trying to get. So don't be too hard on yourself.

Beth

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Anonymous
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Posted:Apr 09, 2002 11:08:10 AM

You haven't done anything to be sorry about, sweetheart. Actually, not many people read this bulletin board anyway!

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Posted:Apr 12, 2002 6:50:13 PM

I am aparent but have to agree with Sa-sha. My son has mild cp, apd and mild add. He resents being told he is disabled. If we are dicussing his weaknesses he would rather me say use cp or apd or add. My son is 10 and is quite sensitive and this is how he feels. Sasha you have nothing to feel sorry about we adults should be more sensitive to anyone who has weaknesses in one area or another.


Lisa in NJ

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Posted:Apr 14, 2002 12:33:53 PM

I'm also a parent and I also said there was nothing to be sorry about.

I think you may have put your post in the wrong spot as you where you put it suggested it was for me and not for the entire board.

Good luck to you and your dear son.

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Posted:May 13, 2002 3:52:29 PM

Hello,

i agree that "disabled" language is unneccessary and demeaning, no matter what spin we put on it. Unfortunately we live in a society that does not, for the most part, celebrate difference. further, we are very dualistic; we see things as either right or wrong or good or bad or black or white, etc. so, if a child is different in marked ways from the made-up "norm" we slide that child into the "wrong" category--pun intended.

we all have different brilliances. i'm adhd, attention different with high and developed energy. i have a task switching proficiency! and, when i speak about my son, i talk in the same ways. he has abilities that many others don't have.

i commend you, sa-sha, for challenging the status quo. disable and disorder language needs to go! by continuing to use it we damn ourselves and our children as less than, not enough, damaged goods, and yes, less human.

i'm told over and over that i must find my son's island of competence to build his self-esteem. perhaps if the world weren't looking at him as if he were a disorder, or disabled, his self-esteem wouldn't need so much tweaking!

debra

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Posted:Jan 07, 2004 1:09:28 AM

hi sa sa

i too have a mild cp and i am also have ld a mild form of it but as you can see i have some difcoulty aobut my spelling.

i like the why you take on life keep it up and i hope that you do well :lol: :lol:

butterfly

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butterfly
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Posted:Jan 07, 2004 1:09:57 AM

hi sa sa

i too have a mild cp and i am also have ld a mild form of it but as you can see i have some difcoulty aobut my spelling.

i like the why you take on life keep it up and i hope that you do well :lol: :lol:

butterfly

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