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Posted Nov 19, 2002 at 4:28:29 AM
Subject: life sucks

<HTML>If any one knows of a link to a GOOD ld chat site with actualy people please send me a link in this thread.</HTML>

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Posted:Nov 19, 2002 10:50:33 PM

<HTML>Life sucks then you die
so party hardy and get high!

Instant messanger from MSN and yahoo are free to dawnload. I have MSM IM and it works good.

I'd be glad to IM you and discuss life's similarities to a Hoover Vaccum cleaner. SSSSSSSSuck!!!</HTML>

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Posted:Dec 07, 2002 2:02:30 PM

<HTML>The only thing I have to say "EMINEM, the song Lose Yourself"
A normal life is borin!! Success is the only option NOT failure!!
You can do anything if you set your mind to it!!
Dyslexic ETSU college student in Virginia,
Tabby</HTML>

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Posted:Dec 08, 2002 9:32:58 AM

<HTML>Tabby,

I understand the intent of your message as a negative attitude does not help us. But in my opinion, we also do a disservice to people by saying they can do anything they set their mind to.

Due to my severe visual spatial difficulties as a person with a non verbal learning disability, I cannot make money as an artist even if I set my mind to it. I agree that determination can help someone overcome incredible odds but not all of them and I think we need to be honest about that.

I also have a different take on your statement that success is the only option, not failure. It just seems that is a black and white thinking type of statement that leave no wiggle room for folks to step outside their comfort zone. Because many people with LD have experienced constant failure, making that type of statement would not feel sincere to them and since failure is not an option, they would not take the necessary risks to experience growth in their lives.

Here is how I approach a situation. When I returned to graduate school as a middle aged student, I created these two scenarios. If I didn't go back to school, that was ok but it also meant that I had to accept the fact, I would be in very monotonous and boring jobs. Didn't like that choice.

But if I returned to school, I might fail but I also might succeed and get the training I need. My attitude was since I would never know unless I try and I desperately wanted the additional training, I had nothing to lose. But I think by giving myself the permission to fail, it actually created the paradoxical effect of doing everything possible to make sure I succeeded.

Of course, I knew after the 1st day in class, I liked the subject and I knew that I could do well in the course so that helped. Also, once I decide to go through with a situation, my competiveness takes over and then nothing will stop me. But again, that all stems from giving myself permission to fail.

Let me also make something else clear. I chose a curiculumn that I knew I had a chance to succeed in and didn't pick something that I knew would be impossible. That makes a big difference.

Finally, you said a normal life is boring. It's interesting, I liked that fact that my class project was different from everybody elses. So in one way, I do enjoy being different. I also liked the fact that I always came up with different answers in discussions on the textbook and feel I make people consider issues that normally, they might not have.

But for one day, I would love to know what it was like to be able to find my way around an area and not have one little thing throw me off. Then again, maybe I wouldn't because if I did get what I wanted and then had to go back to having the NLD Brain again, that might be more depressing.

PT</HTML>

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Posted:Dec 11, 2002 10:12:40 PM

<HTML>PT,

Do you think God is a sh*t?</HTML>

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Posted:Dec 12, 2002 8:30:17 AM

<HTML>Ball,

I am not sure you meant for your question to be funny but I am LOL at it because I do wonder.

PT</HTML>

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Posted:Dec 12, 2002 11:56:13 AM

<HTML>What I met was does god single out really good people to screw with? It sure looks that way to me. God needs an ass whoppin for being such a bully. Too bad my arms are so short. If I could destroy God I would.</HTML>

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Posted:Dec 13, 2002 9:59:42 PM

<HTML>No ! I don't think God is sh*t. I just thank my good fortune my god is not a jew.</HTML>

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Posted:Dec 14, 2002 2:15:49 AM

<HTML>Hi PT:

I am a 44-year old woman with a severe visual-spatial disability and NLD. I have never known anyone with the same disability. If you would be willing to e-mail me, I'd love to correspond with you. We can compare notes. I feel like nobody understands what I go through on a daily basis with this disability.When I have chosen to disclose my disability, nobody "gets" it. They think I am more-or -less making it up or that I just want to feel sorry for myself. My mother and sisters don't even get it. I recently had a conversation with my sister in which she advised me to attend nursing school (because nurses are in high demand right now). I tried, to no avail, to explain that I flunked basic algebra and biology in high school. Since a nursing program is ALL science I know for certain that I would fail within a week. She suggested that I could make it if I had a tutor. Then she tried to bolster her argument by tellling me about a couple of her friends who went back to school in their forties and did extremely well. I asked her if those women had a learning disability! And why would I want to torture myself with tons of science classes that I am hopelessly bad at when it would make more sense for me to focus on my, albeit limited, strengths? To look at me and to talk with me, you would never know that I have LD. My best friend, who is smart and sensitive, said to me after I was diagnosed , " Since you're not in school, it doesn't really affect you, does it? She, at least had an open mind, unlike my sister.

Write to me if you feel inclined. erin@apadley.com

Many thanks,
Erin</HTML>

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