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Learned helplessness and the rape of the human spirit...

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This may be a continuation of Jorge’s thread entitled Battling social services. As a man I doubt I will ever experience rape in the sense of sexual assault but I along with many others have experienced a form of rape by the sadists who call themselves human service workers and it was a gang rape. Detatching myself from their brand of help was the best thing I could have done. It’s been a long time but my level of anger towards them remains very fresh in my mind. I am usually not one to hold a grudge but this is more than a grudge. I feel their antics was an assault on the very essence of me so perhaps my assertion that these pricks are evil is somewhat distorted but the facts say otherwise. After talking with other people with other disabilities it has become increasingly clearer that my situation and the others on this board are the rule not the exception.

If I ever darken the door of a VR dungeon it will be to give them crap. Someone please tell me why I am wrong to believe that human sevrices and particularly VR is downright evil.

Submitted by Anonymous on Mon, 08/19/2002 - 5:16 AM

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I had a VR counselor apologize to me for what they put me through. I ran into him on the street and he couldn’t apologize enough. He told me he was just doing time until retirement. Mind you, this guy was no ball of fire but he did have some shred of humanity left. The system is designed to fail because failure bring more funding and more funding means more money for scams and kick backs. Back then it was called OVR. Now it’s called VESID.

I reattached with VESID in 92 after injuring my neck and the witch I got for a counselor was evil incarnate. I’ll never forget my first meeting with her. She was dressed like a tramp. Thick make up and a very short dress and she seemed unable to cross her legs. I was all business. Mostly because I’m a gentleman but also because she’s ugly. In retrospect maybe I should have flirted and stroked her ego. I’ve since found that she tends to have a thing for her male clients. Seems that when she realiized that I wouldn’t be playing hide the salami with here the chances of getting services. It took her 2 years to obtain my medical records. Thats about all she did. She did hook me up with another bunch of screw-ups called RCIL They needed clients to justify a TBI services grant.(something they were not qualfied to do) but hey it’s free money and a clever grant writer is all it takes. There were no able bodied hetero-sexual males working at RCIL. The hens that worked there were all decent looking wich is unusual for the Mohawk Valley area where obesity is epidemic.
So I think qualifications were based on looks and willingness to take dictation from the O.R.I.T.H.H. Only rooster in the hen house. The hens definately had attitude and the rooster wanted no competition.

Interview with a vampire: I’d love to give a retired VESID senior counselor truth serum and learn all the dirt. But what I’d really like to know is how much $$$ get spent and how many clients get helped.

Submitted by Anonymous on Mon, 09/23/2002 - 12:14 PM

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MY PROBLEM IS WITH HUD HOUSING MY DAGHTER AND GRANDDAUGHTER HAVE DISABILITIES MY DAUGHTER HAS BEEN RIDICULE AND BEAT UP BY THE TENNANTS IN THE BUIDING BECAUSE OF THE WAY SHE LOOK. FOR 10 YEARS SHE HAS BEEN MENTALLY AND PHYSICALLY ABUSE LAST WEEK SHE WAS HIT IN THE BACK WITH A LEAD PIPE. HOUSING SECURITY IS A JOKE THE TOLD THE WOMAN AND MY DAUGHTER THEY WOULD TAKE THEM BOTH TO JAIL. I TOOK MY DAUGHTER TO THE EMERGENCY BECAUSE SHE WAS AND STILL IS IN GREAT PAIN. MY DAUGHTER AND MY YOUNGEST DAUGTER HAD WENT TO THE STORE TO BY SPRITE AND A BAG OF ICE AS THE COMMING UP THE STAIRS THE WOMEN AND HIT BY DAUGHTER. THE OAKLAND POLICE DEPARTMENT TOOK A REPORT FROM BOTH OF MY DAUGHTERS FROM THE HOSPITAL. THE OAKLAND HOUSING AUTHORITY POLICE WHO DID NOT TAKE THE REPORT CALL ME ON MY CELL PHONE AND STARTD YELLING AT ME . THAT MY DAUGHTER DIDNOT TELL HIM SHE WAS HURT. HE NEVER ASK AND MY DAUGHTER WAS STOOP OVER BECAUSE HE HAD OUTSIDE WITH THE PERSON WHO ASSULTED HER. HE WAS ANGRY WITH ME BECAUSE I WENT TO THE POLICE STATION TO FILE AN ASSAULT CHARGE AGAINST THE PERSON AND DESK SERGENT CALL AN OFFICER TO TAKE THE REPORT FROM DAUGHTER AT THE HOSIPITAL .
THE TWO OFFICERS WHO CAME TO THE HOUSE DID NOT MAKE AN REPORT ABOUT THE INCIDENT. THIS SYSTEM REALY STINKS. OH BY THE WAY THE WOMEN WHO HIT MY DAUGHTER TOLD THE OFFICERS SHE DID HIT MY DAUGHTER.TWOYEARS AGO MY DAUGHTER WAS PUNCH IN IN THE EYE BECAUSE SHE ASK THE LITTLE BOY MOTHER COULD SHE TALK TO HER SON ABOUT THROWING FIRCRAKERS AT HER CHILDREN HE ALREADY BURN MY YOUNGEST DAUGHER WHEN HE THREW IT AT HER AND BURN HER CHEST. AND HE THREW THE FIRCRAKER INTO THE HOUSE WHICH THERES A BURN HOLE ON THE FLOOR. THE TENNANTS SAID SO WHAT YOU RETARTED BITCH HE CAN BURN ALL YOU RETARD UP I HATE RETARDED PEOPLE HITLER SHOULD HAD KILL EVERY ONE OF YOU BASTERS. MY DAUGHTERS WAS NOT BORN DURING HITLER SHE IS ONLY TWENTY THREE MY YOUNGEST DAUGHER IS 12 . THE 23 YEAROLD HAS TWO CHILDREN HER LITTLE GIRL IS DISABEL . WE FILE A RESTRAINING ORDER AGAINST HER. ANOTHER TENNANT BEAT UP MY DUGHTER SERVERLY SHE BEEN HARARISNG MY DAUGHTER SINC SHE WAS 12 YEARS OLD MY DAUGHTER USE TO RIDE THE YELLOW BUS THE TENNANTS WOULD CALL HER RETARDED BITCH AND GET ALL THE OTHER TENNANTS CHILDREN TO CHANT RETARDED BITCH. WHEN MY DAUGHTER TURN 18 SHE BEAT HE UP SERVERLY WHICH I HAD TO TAKE TO THE EMERGENCY AND TO SEE AND ORTHOPEDIC. INJURY WAS DONE TO HER BACK.
THIS WOMAN WAS 38YEARS OLD WE PUT A RESTRAINING ORDER ON HER . FIRST SHE PUT ONE ON ME BECAUSE OAKLAND HOUSING AUTHORTY TOLD HER TO SINCE I WAS THE HEAD OF THE HOUSEHOLD THE CAN EVIT ME AND MY FAMILY. THE JUDGE THREW IT OUT BECAUSE I HAVENT DONE ANYTHING TO THIS WOMAN. SEE SHE WENT TO SPEAK TO THE MANAGER WHILE I TOOK MY DAUGHTER TO THE EMERGENCYFOR TREATMENT. PUBLIC HOUSING DID NOT WANT TO HERE FROM US. BUT ANY WAY FILE A REATRANING ORDER AGAINSE HER AN THE JUDGE LET THAT ONE WENT THREW. ON OUR WAY HOME IN THE JPARKING THERE WAS TWO MANGERS TALKING TO HER AND SHE WAS YELLING AT THEM BECAUSE THEY GAVE HER BAD ADVICE. TWO DAYS LATER THE MANAGER WANTED TO SPEAK TO ME . I WROTE HIM A LETTER DUE TO THE POOR JUDGEMENT HOUSING HAS MADE AGAINSE ME AND MY FAMILY I DO NOT TRUST THEM
I WILL BE BRINGING A TAPE RECORDER AND A WITNESS SO THAT CAN TAKE NOTES. I DID NOT HERE FROM THAT PERSON AGAIN AND HE WAS NOT THE MANAGER OF THIS UNIT HE WAS A MANGER OF ANOTHER UNIT HE WAS A FRIEND OF HER FAMILY THEY WERE ALL VERY CLOSE. WHEN MY DAUGHTER WAS 14 ANOTHER GROWNUP JUMP MY DAUGHTER BEACAUSE MY DAUGHTER ASK THE TENNANT WILL SHE PLEASE TELL HER DAUGHTER NOT TO PULL HER HAIR SHE DID NOT WANT TO PLAY WITH HER SHE HAVE HEADACHEES.SEE MY DAUGHTER ALSO SUFFERS WITH MIGANE HEADACHES AND MILD SEIZURES. THE WOMAN GOT MAD AND STARTED TO PUNCH HER IN THE STOMACH AND HEAD.. I HAVE BEEN TAUGHT THAT IF SOMEONE CHILDREN HAVE DONE SOMETHING ALWAYS TALK TO THE PARENT. AND THIS ISWHAT I TELL MY CHILDREN ALSO . BUT TIMES HAVE CHANGE NOT ONLY THE CHILDREN MISBEHAVE BUT ALSO THE PARENTS. MY FAMIY HAVE BEEN LIVING IN THE SAME BUILDING FOR 12 YEARS AND SINCE THE WORD IS OUT THAT THEY CAN DO ANYTHING TO US EVEN STILL FROM US THEY CAN GET AWAY WITH IT. MY WINDOW TO MY CAR IS BROKEN THE PEOPLE BELOW ME GOT ANGRY BECAUSE THIER APARTMENT FWAS FLOUDING WATER AND THEY BLAME ME AND MY KDS THEY DID NOT CALL MAINTENACE THEY HARRASE AND MADE THREATS ANGAINST MY 4AND 5 YEAROLD ALSO THE 12 YEAR CHILDREN THE CHILDREN PLAYING ON THE BALCONY AND THEY WANTED US TO ACT A FOOL BUT WE DID NOT WE CALL THE CHILDREN INTO THE HOUSE I CALL THE POLICE AND THE DISPACTUR SAID THEY HAD ALREADY CALL AND COMPLAINT THAT MY WASHING MACHINE WAS FLOUDIND HER APPARTMENT AND MY APARTMENT AS WELL. I TOLD THE POLICE THAT MY APARTMNET WAS NOT OVERFLOWING. TWO OFFICER CAME AND WENT DOWNSTAIRS AND LEFT . THE TENNANTS GOT MAD AND BROKE MY CAR WINDOW TH FRONT WINDOW. I HAD THAT WINDOW REPLACE THREE DAYS AGO WHICH COST $176.OO . THE TENNANTS ALSO WROTE ALL OVER MY CAR AND POUR PAINT ON IT. MY CAR IS A MESS . I WAS NOT ABLE TO TAKE MY DAUGHTER TO THE HOSPITAL SO THAT SHE CAN HAVE XRAYS. I AM SO DISAPPOINTED AND STRESS THAT I AM HURTING INSIDE MY VERY SOUL. I JUST DONT UNDERSTAND THIS HATRED TOWARD MY FAMILY. MY 23 YEAR OLD WANTS TO COMMIT SUICIDE SHE WROTE ME AND HER SISTER A LETTER SAYING THAT ALL OF THIS IS HAPPINING BECAUSE OF HER I TELL HER EVERY DAY THAT LIVING WITH THESE PEOPLE AND THIER ATTITUDE IS NOT FHER FAULT THEY JUST BAD SEED THIERS NO HOPE OR LOVE IN THEM AND THEY WILL NEVER FIND PEACE IN THEMSELVES. BECAUSE GOD IS LOVE AND HE IS GOOD. A FRIEND IS GOING TO DO SOME MINOR REPAIRS ON HIS CAR AND LET ME HAVE IT UNTIL I AM ABLE TO PAY TO THE REPAIRS ON MY CAR. WHICH IS 500DOLLARS DUDUCTIBLE. WE GO TO THE BEACH WHEN THE WEATHER PERMITS IT AND SOON WE TURN THE CORNER TO ARE APARTMENT WE BECOME DEPRESS WE DO FELL THIS IS NOT OUR HOME. EVERYDAY MY DAUGHTERS ARE THREATEN BY THE TENNANTS MY 23 YEAROLD IS IN SCHOOL AND SHE HAS A WONDERFUL TEACHER WHO IS UNDERSTANDING AND MY DAUGHTER IS HAPPY TO BE THERE . FINNALLY IS BLESSES WITH A GOOD TEACHER.. I TO AM DISABLE I CANNOT STAND LONG I HAVE INCOGNENCE AND MY ARTHORITISE FLARES UP I CANNOT STAND FOR A LENGTH OF TIME.MY FEET AND LEGS SWELLS UP. BUT TODAY I AM GOING TO THE OFFICE AND TALK TO THE MANAGER AND TELL HER WHAT HAPPEN BUT THEY DONT DO ANY THING AFTER THE MEETING WITH HER I FOLLOW IT UP WITH A LETTER. AND THE PLUMBER CAME TO MY APARTMENT AND SAID THE FLOUDIND IS NOT OUR FAULT SHE HAS A FAUTLY SYSTEM AND THAT THEY GOING TO BRING A CREW IN TO FIS HER PIPES BUT MY CAR IS DAMAGED BECAUSE THEY BLAME ME FOR THE PLUMBING WHICH I HAVE NOTHING TO WITH. THEY BEEN HARRASING MY FAMILY FOR A WEEK BECAUSE THEY DID NOT CALL HOUSING MAINTENACE WHEN WE TAKES BATHS THEY BLAME WASH DISHES OR WASH CLOTHES THEY BLAME US FOR TTHEIIR PROBLEM THE PLUMBER SHUT OFF THEIR VALVE………………PLEASE HELP US WITH ANY INFORMATION YOU MIGHT HAVE. WE ARE TIRE OF BEING THE VICTIMS. GOD BLESS.

Submitted by Anonymous on Tue, 11/26/2002 - 3:07 PM

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Dear Joan
I am really sorry that you are having to face all of those people and that your children are being treated in the way they are. I hope that you will not give up hope as there are people in the world who do not think as they do.
I hope that you manage to get your car fixed and that your daughter does not hurt herself, I too believe in God and I think that what you give out is what you get. If those people hurt you then they will be hurt but it is not our place to do the hurting. I don’t think harming anyone ever did any good. For your daughters sake and the sake of your other children you must not give in.
Warm wishes
Jacqui

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