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Think my sons school is trying to set him up

Submitted by an LD OnLine user on Thu, 12/05/2013 - 12:16 AM

I signed my sons IEP,Which was a disaster,but leaving my son in tears,this was the very first IEP meeting of the yEAR,and nothing was donE/every teacher complAined that my son just refuses to work,hes lazy and can do the work.
Then it turned Odd really fast,the sPed director asked if I was scared of my son,his sped teacher asked if I was depressed.
Then they bRought my son in and the sped director asked the hI’m if he was depressed.THEN she said ?she though he was deppfessed and was gping to bring in a school therapist to evaluate hI’m.SHE Wend on to meatironing handcuffS/juvie/hospitalization/and being place away fron home.
I asked about an FBA and it was dismissed.The Sped director said she is gping to bring in a behavior specialist from a co-op to assess him,then depending on what she says/then an FBA can be donE.THis smells like a set up to me.I don’t want the therapist and something is not right about the behavior specialist/and FBA ,just don’t know exactly what excePt the sped director suggested it.
What can I do now???

Submitted by creidinger on Tue, 10/08/2013 - 5:42 PM

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You have the right to request an independent evaluation at no cost to you, if you are not satisfied with the current one. It is also your legal right to decline any testing, and even if you agreed with the testing to begin with, you can withdraw consent at any time. I would suggest getting an advocate that has a better understanding of the law. Hope this helps.

Submitted by GenJennai on Wed, 10/09/2013 - 12:36 PM

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I am with you on this… it seems very unfair that the SpEd director was mentioning handcuffs and the like. It may be a scare tactic, but it is not justified in getting your child (or you) to cooperate. You definitely have several important issues going on here that need to be addressed.
Your input is crucial to the development of the IEP. Did you have a chance to give any information on your son’s likes and dislikes? Share what he is good at? What he struggles with? This is pertinent information when the teacher/IEP team develops the IEP. Was the IEP already presented to you in a complete form? Were you mailed a copy before the meeting previously to review it and bring questions? You definitely sound as if an advocate is needed in this situation. You son is going to wind up hating school and giving up on himself. Let alone the things you are putting yourself through. PLEASE seek out help.

Submitted by Keri on Sun, 10/13/2013 - 11:50 AM

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It is terrible that this is going on. Nothing that the SpEd director shared with you was helpful and they were not helpful. You need to advocate for further assessment and I would talk about the FBA again and push the issue. What other assessments have been done and what is the behavioral specialist going to see? I truly they are handing this unprofessionally. What I can tell you is that I believe that parent input is essential when creating and developing an IEP. You are a part of the process and should be included. I hope things work out for you and please continue to advocate for your rights and your child’s right. They are law.

Submitted by monicagreen1111 on Wed, 12/04/2013 - 9:34 PM

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How can someone request an advocate? Just in case you do not feel comfortable talking to the people that offended you. And how do you request an independent evaluation for the same reason?
Thank you for your valuable insight because so many people do not know that they have these options.

[quote=creidinger]You have the right to request an independent evaluation at no cost to you, if you are not satisfied with the current one. It is also your legal right to decline any testing, and even if you agreed with the testing to begin with, you can withdraw consent at any time. I would suggest getting an advocate that has a better understanding of the law. Hope this helps.[/quote]

Submitted by j8 on Thu, 12/05/2013 - 12:16 AM

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I would suggest calling another IEP meeting, which is your right as a parent. Annual IEPs are mandatory but you can request one at any point you feel it is necessary. I would suggest you contact a support agency near you. In Ohio, we have county boards of developmental delays. They provide service consultants to those with disabilities. These people come to IEP meetings at my school on a regular basis. They also come to the classroom and observe the student and collaborate with me as the teacher. I would highly suggest you contact such an agency to identify any and everyone that can be an advocate to you and your child. Then you can invite this advocate to your meeting, and they can represent you and your child’s rights as they generally have a great deal of knowledge about resources and ways to support your child. Best of luck…

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