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Please help me by tomorrow morning
I need your help by tommorrow morning. Please see my first message.
: I need your help by tommorrow morning. Please see my first message.Rachel, consider trying this. Go in to school with your daugher tomorrow. Try to go in early. Walk your daughter back to her classroom. When you find her teacher, smile and say, “My dear daughter needed me to come to school with her this morning. She has the idea - I know it sounds silly- but that she’s being moved out of your classroom today! I understand that this isn’t happening but she needed me to come with her as even the thought of leaving your class and you made her so unhappy! We had a rough night last night.” And smile at her again.Maybe your dear daughter got it wrong. If she did, she’ll go to her seat, the teacher will smile and you’ll blow your daughter a goodbye kiss and leave. Problem solved.If the teacher says, “Well, Mrs. Smith, that is what’s going to happen today…” Flip out. Go nuts. Let your jaw drop. Look shocked. Then.. gather yourself, and say “I’m so sorry for reacting so strongly but… are you kidding me? I want my daughter in YOUR classroom. You’re the best teacher I’ve ever seen! She loves you! And she’s spent a half year with you. Children should not be moved in the middle of the year. How disorienting! I’d have to put her in therapy for the rest of the year to get over this! I had no idea that placement in your wonderful classroom was temporary! I was never told this! This is not acceptable. Who can I speak to because I know, Miss Jones, that you would never send this child who loves you from your classroom. You must be as upset about this as I am! There has to be some mistake. And I think this would violate her 504 plan too. But of course, that’s less important to me than the fact that she wants to stay with you.”When she stammers out you need to talk to the principal or the guidance counselor or whoever, smile at your dear daughter, and tell the teacher that, of course, Rachel will stay in her room until you straigten this out and then go and straighten it out.Play the scene out again. Go in smiling but shaken. “Miss Jones just told me something I can hardly believe. I come in with my daughter this morning and Miss JOnes tells me that she is being thrown out of her class on her ear! What is that to do to a child in the middle of the year? Rachel tried to tell me this last night but I assumed the dear child got it all wrong.”Decide what you want before you go in that school. Will you settle for her being allowed to be in that class for the rest of the year? To negotiate with this school or any other, one need be prepared to give something to get something. You may not be able to keep her in this program but you should be able to keep her in this classroom for the rest of the year.Good luck.
: I need your help by tommorrow morning. Please see my first message.Rachel, consider trying this. Go in to school with your daugher tomorrow. Try to go in early. Walk your daughter back to her classroom. When you find her teacher, smile and say, “My dear daughter needed me to come to school with her this morning. She has the idea - I know it sounds silly- but that she’s being moved out of your classroom today! I understand that this isn’t happening but she needed me to come with her as even the thought of leaving your class and you made her so unhappy! We had a rough night last night.” And smile at her again.Maybe your dear daughter got it wrong. If she did, she’ll go to her seat, the teacher will smile and you’ll blow your daughter a goodbye kiss and leave. Problem solved.If the teacher says, “Well, Mrs. Smith, that is what’s going to happen today…” Flip out. Go nuts. Let your jaw drop. Look shocked. Then.. gather yourself, and say “I’m so sorry for reacting so strongly but… are you kidding me? I want my daughter in YOUR classroom. You’re the best teacher I’ve ever seen! She loves you! And she’s spent a half year with you. Children should not be moved in the middle of the year. How disorienting! I’d have to put her in therapy for the rest of the year to get over this! I had no idea that placement in your wonderful classroom was temporary! I was never told this! This is not acceptable. Who can I speak to because I know, Miss Jones, that you would never send this child who loves you from your classroom. You must be as upset about this as I am! There has to be some mistake. And I think this would violate her 504 plan too. But of course, that’s less important to me than the fact that she wants to stay with you.”When she stammers out you need to talk to the principal or the guidance counselor or whoever, smile at your dear daughter, and tell the teacher that, of course, Rachel will stay in her room until you straigten this out and then go and straighten it out.Play the scene out again. Go in smiling but shaken. “Miss Jones just told me something I can hardly believe. I come in with my daughter this morning and Miss JOnes tells me that she is being thrown out of her class on her ear! What is that to do to a child in the middle of the year? Rachel tried to tell me this last night but I assumed the dear child got it all wrong.”Decide what you want before you go in that school. Will you settle for her being allowed to be in that class for the rest of the year? To negotiate with this school or any other, one need be prepared to give something to get something. You may not be able to keep her in this program but you should be able to keep her in this classroom for the rest of the year.Good luck.