Last year in March, I told a friend about how my son had difficulties speaking. He had about a 25 word vocabulary. I was alarmed to learn he needed to have a 250 word vocabulary by that time. I went to Early Intervention Services and had him evaluated. I was told he had a speech delay and was referred to Child Find. They too did allot of testing and a plan was developed for therapy. The therapist told me to have him psychologically examined as well. I just came back from an appointment with the psychologist and she told me he has an anger problem. I am feeling so upset with myself. I don’t understand what I did wrong with him. He has a loving 2 parent home. We dont fight or argue around him. We read books with him. He is a very social happy child. I understand he gets upset when he doesn’t get his way but we put him in place. I honestly did not recognize my son when we were with the psychologist. He was acting very aggressive and he even threw a chair. He never does that at home. I feel like I have failed as a mother. However, I love my son too much to give up on him. He is just 3. I was looking for help with his speech problem and now they tell me he has even more problems. Anger management problems and short attention span. I do see a little of that in him except for the speech problem. I’m confused. I know I need to help him get past this. What if really I’m just looking at things as a mother who thinks her son is the best and nothing is wrong him. It going to be hard to accept his disability. He is my only child. I want him to succeed in this world. I am so torn.
Re: I really need some advise for my 3 1/2 year old
I’m with auditory mom on this. The other thing is that your child has speech problems as is less able to express himself than average. The high pressure situation must have been over the top. I would not really worry about the “anger problem” if he never shows it anywhere else.
Another thing, you might ask the speech teacher how you can help your child at home.
You might later find a clinic that specializes in children with language difficulties. The psychologist you went to no doubt had little experience with this.
—des
Maybe the psychologist was having the child do tasks that were difficult,so the child was showing him how he was feeling? The psychologist saw the child for only a short period, so keep that in mind. You will have behavior problems because of speech difficulties. The child may feel they are not being understood,or doesn’t understand, or hear correctly and that leads to frustration for the child. Get a copy of your child’s evaluations for speech and the psychological report,you’ll want it for future reference, and have the people who did the evaluation explain it to you. Be sure to have them tell you your child’s strengths , so you will know the best way to have him learn and so you’ll know what activities your child will be successful at,so he will feel successful.