I have found that “discipline” may stop the behavior at the time but in the long run will make it worse. Techniques such as positive reinforcement, charts, awards, are all helpful. Building self esteem is also important. Many times it is over looked that behavior/social skills do not come naturally to these children. They need to be taught these skills and they need to know why the “behavior” is or is not appropriate. Teaching different tones of voice, body language, etc. meanings may also help. These things are not recognized or understood most of the time. Hope this helps. I have alot of detailed material also E mail me if more info. is wanted.: Im a parent of an eight year old daughter that has ADHD-but and i am
: not sure if you have heard of this (opositional Defiant disorder)
: which sounds like your experienceing with this child my childs
: doctor diagnosed her with this (odd) and i can tell you as a
: parent that its very hard to handle and to also have teachers
: understand this all i can say that if my daughter feels she is
: being (bad)or feeling (insecure) they will actually act out even
: worse or in a negative way. that actualy POSitive reinfocements
: work better yet it all does depend on the child. in my school i am
: having problems even at the moment. but one thing they did was to
: give her a special task (materials manager for the room) maybe you
: can find some way for him to be helpfull that makes him feel good
: inside and that hes doing a positive participation within the
: room. also they have it so my daughter if she follows the rules
: and behaves- she can go into another room and help a student with
: reading like a (reading buddy) or some thing to that point. i know
: it must be hard as a teacher but as a parent to a child that
: experiences these problems please dont forget that some times
: inside they hurt so much and feel so bad about themselves that
: they cant even tell you how much and become defiant the only way
: to vent it. it doesnt mean they are realy bad kids in all cases.
: definitly work with the parents also and meet trying to find ideas
: to resolve the problems but it also sounds like he needs to be in
: a class with more then one teacher. they also say physical
: enforcement doesnt work. but to say to them ” This is not
: apropriate behavior for this room and when your ready to join us
: please let me know” and then walking away letting him lay
: there and ignorring the atention wanting behavior and going about
: your normal teaching skills to show him you wont put up with it
: may help. or such as “this is not an apropriate way to speak
: to me and im not discussing the matter further until you can speak
: to me the right way” and then walking away and ignorring the
: verbal language until the child begins to see you wont put up with
: it. im just olny trying to give you a few ideas you may even know
: of them but i hope it helps in some way: Also children with adhd some times need to do some of thier
: work…then take a ten minute break and go back to it..also at
: times they have to do some thing physical walking jumping jacks an
: exercise which helps with the hyper- problem an adhd child cannot
: sit still for long periods of time then have to have small breaks
: of a sort then come back with better concentration..: Take care Aqua