Yes, the system has failed him. I agree that something must be done now. Find a professional who understands LD in adults.

Don’t be so quick to rush to ADHD as the cause.

The question is not whether you want to retain your child in her grade or not. The question is what are the many problems your daughter faces and how best to address each.

Your problems are serious and I am sorry you find yourself where you are now. It is possible that your depression is the result of your years of frustration and failure.

May I start with your comment that you want what is best for your son. I also believe that his teacher and principal also want what is best for your son.

Your desire to help your daughter progress at her own rate of growth rather than the curriculum offered by a general education program is fine.

Your questions and concerns are on target. You need to find out more about why your daughter is struggling.

Emily,

First, let’s discuss your nine-year-old. He is in the fourth grade and reading at the second grade level.

May I first answer the question for all students and then for the specific issues related to your son.