Your description of your four-year-old son is complex. I recommend that you meet with the preschool evaluation service of your neighborhood public school.
As your developmental pediatrician mentioned, development can be uneven between three and six or seven, especially for boys. Some kids are reading by first grade and some are not.
First, might I comment that six-year-olds, especially boys, often develop unevenly. Their language and/or motor skills might be more advanced than the other.
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That can make a big difference, especially with older students. One thing we run into is we often give students way too much technology at first, and that can become overwhelming for them.
There is a category within IDEA for Traumatic Brain Injury; however, students with your daughter’s history are usually identified based on how the prenatal trauma impacts on their ability to
